Lost in Northern Vietnam – Laugh Always Spotlight Edition

_This life is to be lived without regret__________________________________________The World After Anxiety, Depression and Eating Disorder - Laugh Always Spotlight EditionBy Monica Vaklinova (1)

Welcome to the latest edition of the Laugh Always Spotlight!  Thanks for being here!  This is a first story like this that we have done; something different!

Have you ever thought about being lost in a foreign land where you don’t know the language?  I am sure that is why a lot of people don’t even travel to foreign countries because of this fear.  Here is a story from Monique & Dylan, also know as the Honeymoon Backpackers.  This is kind of a crazy story and I don’t know what I would have done!

We’ve never really been ones for planning; we like to go with the flow & just hope for the best. So that’s what we did whilst in Vietnam on our journey from Hanoi to Sapa, riding our motorbike ‘Betty’. Possibly not the brightest move on my behalf considering I suffer from anxiety. An unfamiliar environment, no one who speaks English, crazy drivers, potholes all over the road and tons of traffic, what could go wrong?

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We already planned the route we wanted to take to Sapa; it’s part of the Northern Loop & has incredible scenery along the way. Except we ended up leaving from the North rather than the south, to bypass the insane peak hour traffic in Hanoi. This was the first of many poor decisions.

After a while, we realized the bike was lagging. Only to find that our petrol tank was empty, I guess that’s one way to realize that our petrol gauge doesn’t work. The freeway began & we saw a big sign saying “NO MOTORBIKES”, therefore we had to change routes.
Our phone battery is horrific and died within the first two hours of driving and our portable charger I swear I had the day before, was nowhere to be found. Things just weren’t going our way at all.

We were stopping every 5 minutes to ask for directions. Somehow we stumbled upon an old ancient complex, believed to have belonged to the Tang Dynasty who used to be the Chinese rulers of Vietnam. The winding roads were picturesque, we were sheltered by a natural canopy of vines blocking the piercing sun. We drove past beautiful lakes, with pathways wrapping around them. Old stone dragon statues protruded out of these perfectly manicured bushes. The entrance was just incredible with a huge main gate and guards. We snapped a quick picture, just before we got caught in a huge storm.
Somehow I was doing okay, despite everything that had gone wrong I tried to be positive. Dylan kept reassuring me that we are on some crazy adventure and that no other traveler who visits would experience what we did.

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After the storm passed we got back on the road & somehow managed to make friends with another couple whilst riding our motorbike. It’s quite normal to ride next to each other on motorbikes and have a conversion, thank heavens I wasn’t the one driving.

The Vietnamese girl asked “Where are you going”, “We came from Hanoi & we’re going to Sapa” we said, “follow us” she answered, “we’re going the same way”.
Turns out we were not going the same way, in fact the opposite.. She thought we were going TO Hanoi not coming FROM Hanoi… I definitely should have just answered ‘Sapa’ instead of trying to have a proper English conversation! She said ‘sorry’ and told us to go back the way we came. Yeah now my anxiety and stress was settling in.

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So we drove two hours back the way we came as it turned from dusk to complete darkness. We somehow found a cheap hotel, got some food and connected to WiFi. Only to realize that we didn’t have to backtrack two hours, just turn right instead of left. I was trying so hard not to loose it.
Despite everything, we had an awesome adventure on our first day, even though we only actually rode 120km, and were only two hours from Hanoi. Tomorrow we had some major riding to do if we were going to reach Sapa.
We woke up with a bright positive attitude that today was going to be our day. It’s a shame a positive attitude can only get you so far, when everything that could go wrong does go wrong.

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We had our phone charged, route sorted and a clear sense of direction, but even that couldn’t help us. Once again we drove on the same road for the third time in a row.
We worked out the route we were going to take, had a pretty clear sense of our direction and this time our phone was fully charged! Off we went to embark upon the same long stretch of road for the 3rd time (thanks to yesterday’s mishap). Thankfully the drive was beautiful as it wrapped around a river alongside rice fields with water buffalo.
Google maps soon directed us towards the road to Sapa, YES. Our hearts dropped once we saw the “No Motorbikes” sign. This is when our killer plan & positive attitudes turned to shit. So we took the alternate route that weaved under and around the freeway we longed to be on. I wouldn’t even call this a road; it was a dirt path full of potholes, rocks and thick sludgy mud. We even had to cross through rivers and almost drowned our motorbike.
When I thought things couldn’t just get any worse, my phone battery died at 25%. My anxiety started to kick in, but Dylan was reassuring me that “it will be fine”. So we decided to kick it old school and follow a map that was missing majority of the roads, including the one we were on. What could go wrong?

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We saw a sign that said Sapa at a 3-way intersection, so we had a 1/3 chance that we were going the right way. Every time we stopped and asked for directions, they just kept waving us through along the same road. So we just kept going.

Realistically, we should have turned around when we reached the first hill full of massive rocks and a 45 percent incline. I had to jump off and run up the hill that many times because our bike wasn’t going to make it. We were passing little ethnic villages with people wearing their tribal clothing and jewelry.

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Everyone was running to the road waving at us, giving us high fives or just genuinely laughing at us. We were quite the celebrities.
I guess the incredible scenery and our lust for adventure distracted us from the reality that we were in fact going the wrong way. Our bike was struggling, nightfall was approaching, and we were in the middle of bloody nowhere! We were now 22km from the town we thought we had to get to, and then our exhaust fell off attempting to get up a rocky hill!
The whole village has come out to see what bought these two stupid foreigners here. I point the way we were heading and said ‘Sapa?’ and the whole town bursts out in laughter.

So it’s dark, we’re in this tiny little village with not even a Pho place to eat dinner, nowhere to stay, our motorbike is broken, no one speaks English and everyone is laughing at us. It’s no wonder I had an anxiety attack.
I started hyperventilating; my brain wasn’t getting enough oxygen, I couldn’t stand anymore and started to get dizzy. There was Vietnamese people everywhere, laughing, pointing at me and taking photos. My limbs started to tense, I was sobbing and couldn’t move. How could I be in this situation right now, so lost and so far from civilization?
What are we going to do, it’s dark and our motorbike is broken, we have nowhere to stay, nowhere to eat and we’re in the middle of bloody where?

Thank heavens my husband Dylan was there. He helped bring my breathing back to normal and calm me down. A few local guys screwed on our broken exhaust to temporarily fix the problem and invited us for dinner and to stay at their house.

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Everything that was running through my head, giving me this serve anxiety was soon resolved. It took a while to feel normal again, I think the rice wine they were feeding me helped, a lot.

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The people were actually so beautiful, kind and lovely. They fed us beer, a massive dinner and put a roof over our head for the night. The whole village came to see us, take photos and practice their English. Some people in this village have never actually seen a foreigner before in their life, so it was really cool to be the first western person that they’ve ever seen. We communicated through Google translate and practiced our really limited Vietnamese.
After charging our phone, we realized why they were laughing. We were well and truly nowhere near Sapa, way out in the Yen Bai mountain range! I can see why they got a giggle out of it.

We were so grateful for the hospitality we received and relieved at how the situation turned out. It really restored our faith in humanity that people can just open their hearts and their homes to complete strangers, without asking for or accepting anything in return, even though these local people had so very little.

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After another two hours of backtracking the next day, we got to that fork in the road. A local Vietnamese dude, told us to follow him leading us past the ‘No Motorbike’ sign and onto the freeway… So it turns out that we could have just taken the freeway from the beginning, signs in Vietnam are more of a guide than a must.
After running out of petrol, stumbling upon a monastery, getting lost, having tons of bike dramas, driving deep into the Yen Bai Mountain range, having to stay at a local family’s house, visiting villages, trekking through rivers and mud pits, tons of backtracking and time wasting, we had finally made it to Sapa!

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We just wish that it had only taken us 7 hours, like it said on Google Maps! Ah well… It was a crazy experience, we overcame many hurdles and learnt so much from the mistakes that we made along the way. This is a travel experience that we will definitely never forget.

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Author Bio

Honeymoon Backpackers Monique & Dylan, have been travelling the world for almost two years! It all began in May 2016, in the Philippines, where they got married barefoot on White Beach Boracay. Instead of having one elaborate honeymoon trip, they chose to embark on an endless backpacking honeymoon! In total they’ve explored 18 countries together so far. Their aim is to reach all 7 continents around the world on their endless backpacking honeymoon.

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Thank you for reading another edition of the Laugh Always Spotlight!  This story was so awesome to read and gives you insight that there is still love in the world when it might be impossible to find it.  If you want to tell your story about surviving something, please get in touch with me either through the website or emailing me at laughalwayswithlo@gmail.com !

For more Laugh Always Spotlight Editions, head on over to the section up at the top of the page or read the latest story here —> Overcoming Injury – Laugh Always Spotlight Edition

Thank you for reading!

Until next time,

Lo

Laugh Always Spotlight Edition: Dealing With Death

The Laugh Always Spotlight Edition features guest posts from members of the Laugh Always Ambassador Community. Laugh Always has been created to highlight those difficult journeys and to celebrate the badass people that live to share their journey. I welcome you to the second edition of the Laugh Always Spotlight!

I want to introduce you to Ariel.  She is sharing a story about how the loss of a loved one has changed her view on life and what she has learned.

When I was younger, I never truly understood people dying. I always just thought that meant they left forever and I would never see them again. I did not have many family members pass away when I was younger. When my grandpa died in November of 2010 that is when I began to truly understand what death really meant. Before I tell you about what death means, let me back up and tell you about the events leading to his death. 

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Replace “No” With “Yes”

I stopped waiting for the light at the end of the tunnel and lit that b-tch up myself.

 

We wait for jobs.  We wait for opportunities.  We wait to see if we will get that promotion.  We wait for more income.  We wait for the “other” person to make the first move.  We wait to travel.  We wait for our friends to contact us.  We wait for summer, fall, winter or spring.  We wait for a “certain” time.

What are the things you have always wanted to do?  What are the places you have always wanted to travel to?  What is your dream job?  What is your dream life?

Answer these questions honestly.  Write a list if you must.

My question to you is – Why in the world haven’t you done those things?  What is honestly holding you back?  More importantly, what are you waiting for?  Why don’t you have a plan to tackle these goals?

I used to live someone else’s dream.  I lived vicariously through other people and their experiences.  I did not go away to college.  I did not have the college lifestyle that many people get to have; dorm life, drinking late hours and partying, sorority sisters, frat parties – I had those experiences THROUGH others.  It was either my boyfriend that I had at the time or friends I had that were away at school and I would visit them.

Of course, you are age 18-22 and you don’t know what you are doing in life yet.  However, I was not having my own experiences.  I spent so much of my late teens and early twenties living through others experiences and doing what others wanted to do.  I put myself last when this time in my life, I should have been the most selfish.  Unfortunately, not many of us realized that!

Life took its toll and took my parents away from me.  Still reeling from those deaths, I was shortly diagnosed with cancer on and off for the next 3 years.  LIFE CHANGING EXPERIENCE ALERT!

Once in remission for my final time, all I wanted to do was live life. That was my goal.  My friends and I will tell you that this particular summer was probably all of our favorite summers together.  We all spent every single day of the summer months together and we all bonded and became so much closer than we already were.  One of my best friends and I had an urge to take a trip together.  We started to “get into” wine at this point and decided that a trip to Napa Valley was something we wanted to do!  It was planned within two months!

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Was this something I have always wanted to do?  Yes and no.  Before this, I had never traveled alone with a friend or planned a vacation by myself.  I didn’t know what I was doing, and neither of us had a set plan for going out to Napa, nor was Napa our planned destination.  We ended up going for a week with NOTHING on our agenda and decided what we wanted to do once we got there.

I could have had hundreds of excuses.  “I don’t want to spend the money”, “I don’t want to travel that far”, or “Let’s wait until next year”.  This is something that I have wanted to do and God knows I needed a vacation!  It was something I truly wanted to do, so I did it.  It is still one of my favorite vacations to this day (yes, it even comes close to my honeymoon in Maui!).  I feel my life was finally jump started into finding what I wanted to do specifially in my life and I started learning to become selfish for ME.

Since beating cancer in 2013, I have been to more states and have been on more vacations than I have in my previous 25 years of life.  I have been wine tasting in Napa Valley, I have been to Cancun, I have been all over Michigan for weekend stays,  I have been to Maui, San Diego and I ran a half marathon in Disney World in Orlando Florida.  I already have two vacations planned for 2018 which is Guatemala and a return trip to Napa Valley!

I don’t make six figures a year.  I own a house.  I have student loans.  I have bills to pay.  But I make it WORK because it is something that I love doing.  I can’t imagine not visiting these places.  I can’t imagine not exploring these places in my lifetime.  Life has shown me that I should not waste time.  It keeps slapping me in the face pretty hard that I can’t take life for granted!

Why do you wait for love to come and find you?  You have probably done this in your life before; sat around and maybe you weren’t getting the attention you desired from someone because he/she was not texting you, not calling you, or not making plans.  STOP WASTING YOUR TIME WITH THOSE PEOPLE and make it happen with someone else.  Life is too short to waste time with people who don’t appreciate you or VALUE time with you.  The first time I have EVER asked for a man’s number was the first and last time I ever needed to because I am now married to him.  If a relationship is something you really want, go out and find it for yourself and don’t wait for it to come to you!

Why are you waiting to see if your job will turn out better/get a promotion?  If you think you deserve better, find something better.  You have the entire power in your hands at this moment to apply to any job or find something that better suits you.  Do you think you are too old to do something like that?  That is also something that shouldn’t hold you back.

Stop waiting

My advice to you is to stop waiting.  Stop waiting for the right time.  Take it from someone who knows and has had many reminders that life is short.  This message doesn’t have to be about the “bigger” things in life and that this is a reminder to cut the bull with a former friend over a stupid argument or any grudges that you have with family.  This could be about taking chances in all aspects in life.  I wanted to share with you how I began to take chances to make my life something that I am PROUD of.

Thank you again for reading!

-Lo

P.S. – I am looking for Laugh Always Ambassadors!  Head on over to the “Ambassador” section up at the top to join spreading the Laugh Always lifestyle and to inspire and motivate those who can’t find the motivation <3.  Join the movement!

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